How do we get ourselves out of our funks? How do we define these funks? There are obvious funks such as the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, but what about the less identifiable funks? I like to think of these funks as being transitional.
Transitional funks could be anything from an untitled relationship status, lack of clarity in job role / opportunities for advance, holding onto the weight you’re trying to lose, vague apartment searches, etc. These funks linger over our lives like a big dark cloud. You never know when the rain is going to hit, but when it does, it pours.
We find our energy zapped and our state of mind completely overwhelmed. It’s painful. When one thing is off in your life, everything can feel out of control and burdening.
So, how do we rise above these funks, forgive ourselves and start living our best lives? I don’t have the one size fits all answer here; however, I can tell you what I’ve found to be helpful throughout my transitional funks.
When I’m in a funk, I retreat. I’ve always been an all or nothing person. My highs are high and my lows are low. So, I’ve learned that when I feel a funk coming on, or a shift in my energy that I have to proactively change it.
I find exercising and being social with friends critical to overcoming my funks. I’ve realized that most things seem daunting and overwhelming until you take action. Once you’re chipping away at whatever is chipping away at you, you will feel a sense of control.
Last year, I felt helpless and hopeless. I was alive, but I wasn’t living. My fight with New York had finally caught up to me and I didn’t have the energy anymore. I was tired of fighting the current, I was exhausted and that’s when I learned something that changed my life.
In wilderness class we were taught to never fight the current. That you must flow with the current, because otherwise the current will consume you and that will be the end.
There have been many points in my life where I could’ve fought the current until it killed me, but when I’ve surrendered to the universe, it always let’s me free.
I’m used to dealing with high level stress. Like crazy people, moving in 24 hours, jobless, loveless, broke, kind of issues. Now, I find myself very far from such extreme and toxic situations.
That said, the transitional funks can be just as daunting. Sure they aren’t life altering, but they are events and people and places that you have to overcome.
How do you get through the tough times? You force yourself out of your comfort zone, but you also listen to your heart and mind. You have to find the balance between flowing with the current and doing all you can to save yourself.
I mentioned that when I’m in a funk, I retreat. Knowing this about myself helps me avoid getting down, because I know what I need to do. I need to show up and see my friends who give me more life than I ever thought possible. I need to book that class, meditate for a few minutes, eat something green and give thanks for the beautiful life that is mine.
2012 was one of the roughest years of my life. I had a choice then to sink or swim. Leaving the life I knew to start a life I wanted was the best decision I’ve ever made. Every step throughout my New York journey has been a process, but this process has matured me and healed me.
Whether you’re dealing with a transitional funk, or a life needing an extreme makeover, take the plunge. Figure out what it takes to get to where you want to be and just do it. We’re afraid, we’re anxious, we’re blah blah blah. We should be excited and ambitious and dreaming endlessly of all the possibilities.
Everything is perception. I’ve literally watched my own life transform in front of my own eyes because I let go and let life take the reigns. When you love the universe, the universe loves you back.
You are all that you need to get to where you want to be. You are the love you share and the lives you touch. You’re beauty and grace you share with the world. If you’re in a funk, figure out a way to flip it around and change your life.