It’s been awhile, but safe to say, I’m back in business. Thought I needed to go all incognito over the past couple of weeks, but where is the fun in that?
I’ve started and stopped like a mille a mille (no longer relevant? Psh Wayne for life, baby) posts, but blogging and writing have been on the back burner in terms of pressing priorities.
On Saturday, I decided to take time to write and blog. I sat down to write a blog post and ended up writing a six page piece that I’m in love with, but feel it’s way too personal and not blog appropriate, so filing it under future book material.
That said, hey! what’s up? hello! I’ve missed you and the joy that comes from pounding my thoughts onto a keyboard. The fact that I wrote six pages and then wanted to write this (and on a totally separate topic), really demonstrates how much of a release and joy writing and blogging are for me. I want to make more time for this again, because it’s truly therepeutic and hopefully enjoyable for you :).
What a year you’ve been already, amirite? Everyone I know seems to be in mega hermit mode and it’s not because of the cold weather, or cuffing season that is upon us. It seems that regardless of industry, or role, everyone is buried in more work than blankets this winter.
Everyone I talk to is either looking for a job, drowning in their current job, or attempting to get hired without getting fired aka kill their current job while killing themselves to find another gig.
In addition to the current craze around careers, we have a million other gaps to fill. What about dating & relationships, diet & exercise, family & friends, passions & hobbies, philanthropy & volunteerism, religion & spirituality? Talk about a balancing act. So, what do we do with limited time and competing-priorities? We strategize, because after all, fail to plan and plan to fail.
How do you learn how to juggle when you can barely get out of bed in the morning? Practice, patience, perseverance and consistency. I know, painful, but necessary.
This past month, I’ve learned that despite my best efforts, I can’t do it all. Alas, my dreams of being superwoman have been crushed. Once you accept that you don’t have super natural powers, you can stop beating yourself up for falling short. This is SUPER hard for me. I always want it all and want it all at the same time.
I started listing out things I want to happen simultaneously and it occured to me that I’m not Oprah and that made me sad. The thing is, you can have it all and you can be it all, but it takes sacrifice and learning what you want the most versus what you want to a lesser degree. For example, when I moved to NYC, I wanted to live here. That was my priority, so sharing a bunk bed with a stranger (not an ideal goal) was a sacrifice I made. Job searching and networking replaced time that could’ve been spent doing other things, because having cash flow was my biggest priority. Once you’ve achieved your goal through sacrifice, you can move onto the next.
I’m not saying not to try, but what I am saying is try your hardest with what you’ve deemed priority, so that your effort and values align. This will help you to fight feelings of inadequacy, and promote a feeling of accomplishment when the things you are laser-focused on go well. It can feel defeating when you’re doing well in one area, but other areas are suffering… that’s life and it’s okay! The important thing to remember is that change and growth take time.
This year, I set three major goals. I mimicked this idea from one of my best friends who told me she does this every year. Initially, I thought this was absurd! Only three goals? But then I got to thinking and I realized the value in her strategy. Three goals might seem minimal, but it’s really not when you think about all of the work that goes into accomplishing anything big.
Having three pillars in the front of my mind (and planner) keep me laser-focused on what I want to achieve. For example, if my goal is to run a marathon, there is a ton of planning and preparation that needs to happen in order to achieve this goal.
Have patience with the process
You can’t go from zero to hundred in a day. Achieving anything worth while requires dedication, sacrifice, consistency and endurance.
Patience is a virtue and a pain in the ass, but it’s worth mastering; good things come to those who prioritize, plan and consistently execute.
I am someone who wants it all and wants it all right now. Sometimes it’s hard for me to see the steps necessary to accomplish the big pictures that consume my mind. It’s like I want to be at point B, but I tend to just think of the end game and not how to get to get to my destination. Thinking this way is dangerous and doesn’t allow you to think of the steps you can take each day to reach your end game.
Think of your process as an art
It’s a balancing act between knowing your destination and figuring out how to get there. Consistent daily actions are the key to achieving your roadmap success. If you just think about the end game, you’re a visionary/idealist. If you just think about where you are and not where you want to be, you’re stagnant. If you combine the two you find progress.
So often, we get caught up in where we want to be and forget to appreicate the small details that get us there. Changing your life is truly an art. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Masterpieces don’t just appear. The process is tedious and creative. You have a blank canvass and it is your responsibility to brainstorm and plan your process of execution and ways of achievement vary for everyone.
One of my goals is around fitness, so I found a gym partner who has a similar fitness goal and we’ve begun working out together. Having an accountability partner makes it easier to suffer through early mornings filled with dark and cold commutes. We’ve had some turbulence; however, we created a schedule for this week and we’re both committed to it.
For months, I battled with geographical obstacles, work schedules and varying membership obligations when trying to work out with friends. Now, I’ve found someone who has a similar goal, works out at the same time as me and goes to the same gym as me. It’s convenient for both of us and thus simplifies our strategy to achieve our goals.
Stick with it
After you’ve defined your goal and simplified your strategy, you have to remain committed. This is the hardest part! Maybe you want to stay up late, or hit snooze for a few more hours (evvvvvery day OMG), but you can’t. You have to commit to the process and consistency means sacrificing certain things to achieve your goals.
What do you do when you have competing goals? Plan ahead and stick to your plan. That way, when your head is spinning and you have numerous options, you will be less likely to suffer from analysis paralysis.
Analysis paralysis is the worrrrst and you accomplish nothing, so just don’t go there.
I keep a monthly planner, because I like to see things written down, but with so much on my plate, I love finding new ways to stay organized. What are some of the ways you stay organized? Is it through apps, traditional planners, default routine? I would love to hear any tips and tricks you find helpful!